take it out of someone—
1. said of smth. that exhausts or weakens a person:
- He needs rest. The excitement of the past few days has taken it out of him.
2. exact satisfaction from a person (for an offence):
- Now, you need to find a way to get the money back or your boss will take it out of you.
take it out on someone—relieve one’s irritation, frustration, etc. by attacking smb. who is innocent:
- I know you’re upset at missing the train, but that’s no reason to take it out on the porter.